Are we going to have our

boyfriends and girlfriends
in heaven?

Let’s be honest, heaven sounds great, but I have a couple concerns. One of them is your question. I have heard rumors that there won’t be any marriage in heaven, that we won’t have any “families” in heaven. That left me feeling like to go to heaven would leave me a lonely orphan, which doesn’t make heaven sound very attractive.
I was panicked that Christ was going to return before I had a boyfriend, got married, and, heaven forbid (forgive the pun), before I got to have sex. I wanted to have children and really experience the full relationships of life. I know I should have been excited about going to heaven, but little needles of fear gripped my stomach every time I heard the word.
I think this “rumour” of no family in heaven came from the story in Luke 20 where the Saducees are questioning Jesus about the place of marriage in heaven with their “seven brothers and one wife” hypothetical.
Jesus so masterfully answers, “Marriage is a major preoccupation here, but not there [heaven]. Those who are included in the resurrection of the dead will no longer be concerned with marriage nor, of course, with death. They will have better things to think about, if you can believe it. All ecstasies and intimacies will then be with God” (Luke 20:34-36, The Message).

God created companionship
As I read this story again, it all started to become clearer. God is not a God who wants to rip us away from our earthly families or relationships. He is the One who gave us marriage, children and companionship in the first place. But really, these earthly bonds are merely a substitute for the awesome and incomprehensible relationship with God Himself, in person.
He can’t physically be here to interact with us now, but He knew we needed companionship—thus boyfriends, wives, children. If he created all the emotion, passion and attachment that is essential to our lives here, just imagine the depth of that relationship with the real thing—God.
So, where does that leave boyfriends and girlfriends?
If I understand my Bible correctly, all our intimacies in heaven will be with God, not with each other. God will fill all those “human holes” that we can’t imagine life on earth without. But, not to worry, God doesn’t want a heaven full of miserable people. Are we going to miss our human relationships? I suspect not.