Are you form Mars of Venus?

Q> I often hear, “Men are from Mars, women are from Venus.” This seems so true! Have you got any tips on how to understand the opposite sex, and survive alongside them?—Alicia, 17

A> Society has become so tied up in proving that men and women are equal. So, let me get one thing straight—God made two genders for a reason and made us different for a reason. I don’t deny that everyone can do with some polishing up, but God made us unique. Let’s explore some specific areas. (Don’t write me letters; these are generalisations!)

Brain function. Men and women use their brains differently. Women have four times as many brain cells connecting the right and left side of their brain than men. The result of this is that women can operate from both sides of the brain while men are very much left-brain operators. This results in women being able to focus on more then one task at a time. Men like to concentrate their efforts on just one task.

Problem solving. Men and women approach problems with similar goals but with different considerations. For most women, sharing and discussing a problem presents an opportunity to explore, deepen or strengthen the relationship. Women usually are more concerned about how problems are solved than merely solving the problem itself. For most men, solving a problem presents an opportunity to demonstrate their competence, their strength of resolve, and their commitment to a relationship. How the problem is solved is not nearly as important as solving it effectively and in the best possible manner.

Feelings. For men, what demonstrates a solid relationship is quite different from women. Men feel closer and validated through shared activities. Such activities include sports, competition, outdoor activities or intimacies that are active and physical. Women, on the other hand, feel closer and validated through communication, dialogue and intimate sharing of experience, emotional content and personal perspectives.
Many men tend to find such sharing and involvement rather uncomfortable, if not overwhelming.

Communication skills. This part is simple. Women use a lot of words (6000–8000 a day), men don’t (2000–4000 a day). Women take a long time to say what they mean and often assume things. Men usually say what they mean, using the least number of words possible. Women usually like answers or information immediately, men like to think their answers through. Women usually think aloud, men like to think silently. The result of this is that when women speak, men think they are nagging.

The important thing about these differences is that we act and respond differently to circumstances and roles, often in complimentary ways in family situations.
To make these differences easier we need to learn about how the other sex ticks and to respect the differences. God created us to be different, but also made us to get along, so some kind of understanding is obviously attainable.